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July 2009 - Posts

  • What Was Your Father's Bachelor Name?


    Photo of wedding by Digital Vision/Getty Images.On the subject of matrimonial name-changes, Josiah Neufeld has a piece in the Globe and Mail about his own decision to change his name to that of his wife. There's all the usual angst that comes with a semantic switch of identity, plus some gender-based scorn from the relatives (they think he's joined a "matrilineal cult"), plus a kind of lexical void: What does a man who assumes a new name call the one he leaves behind? As Nuefield puts it, "I need a good title for my maiden name: 'former name' is boring; 'ex-name' sounds like a cast-off lover; 'birth name' implies I was adopted; 'unmarried name' evokes a monastic twin who hasn't called since moving to Tibet." What say you, commenters? ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • Looking for Submissions: How Marriage Changes You


    In our "Your Comeback" blog today, Emma Gilbey Keller writes about Allison Yarrow's decision to change her name when she got married—something Keller never thought she'd do. She's looking for more submissions from women whose relationships have inspired life changes: Did you convert as part of a committment? Did you move across the country or to another continent? Emma wants to hear from you at emma@thecomebackbook.com ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Are Class Wars in Britain Comparable to Race Clashes in America?


    Is Kate Middleton Britain’s Henry Louis Gates? That is to say: Is she a public figure whose personal upheaval has lately sparked a national conversation over deeply ingrained prejudices? That’s the theory bubbling beneath this Washington Post piece parsing the recent uproar over Middleton’s uncle, Gary Goldsmith, who was caught on tape prepping cocaine for consumption at the Ibizan villa he’s dubbed La Maison de Bang-Bang ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Lesbian Mom T-shirts Do Not an Activist Make


    A post from Double X writer Margaret Wheeler Johnson:

    Behold, Marc Jacobs' latest foray into T-shirt activism. Jacobs has two new politically themed tees for sale, both bearing the statement: "I pay my taxes. I want my RIGHTS!" He's really going for provocateur status with one of them: The shirt features what we are supposed to assume is a lesbian couple with their very own toddler. It's the iconography of the holy family, and the American nuclear family, just without the XY phenotype ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Fat Girls Sure Do Love Their Donuts!


    Last night I caught up on Drop Dead Diva, Lifetime’s new comedy about an aspiring Price Is Right model, Deb, who dies and returns to Earth in the body of an accomplished, but fat, trial lawyer, Jane. I agree, June, that credit for the show’s greatness goes wholly to Brooke Elliott, who plays Jane. Her walk alone is enough to bring me back for Episode 4. It’s also fun to watch the cameos unfold. You can just picture Rosie O’Donnell getting the script and calling her agent right then to say “A show starring a fat woman that’s not making fun of her? I’m in.” I wonder if a legal battle with Camryn Manheim is in Jane’s future ... (Read the rest of this post, or the whole conversation, in Double X.)

  • A Closetful of Resistance


    A newly published paper in the journal Media, War, and Conflict dissects “the art of shoe-throwing” in light of George Bush’s December near-encounter with the liberated footwear of an Iraqi journalist. Though the political significance of shoes predates the incident—statues of Saddam were so pelted back in 2003—the University of Brighton’s Yasmin Ibrahim argues that Bush helped set off a wave of loafer-related uprisings ... (Read more in Double X.)

     

  • Texting While Driving Without the Kids


    I am too embarrassed by Emily's trumpets-blaring charge against texting while driving to admit to doing it. But if I did, my sin would of course be committed in the service of the holy grail of multi-tasking. The research the NYT cites, however, has reminded me that when the risk entailed by squeezing two tasks into the same minutes is death, it is utterly and obviously a risk not to take ... (Read the rest of this post, or the whole conversation, in Double X.)

  • Being a Woman on a Woman-Hating Beat


    Adam Reilly of the Boston Phoenix makes an interesting connection between ESPN’s prompt response to the creepy nude tape of sportscaster Erin Andrews and its extended silence on the rape allegations against Pittsburgh Steelers quarterback Ben Roethlisberger. If ESPN truly understood from the Andrews case the abusive relationship between women and the world of pro sports, Reilly argues, it should have known the importance of covering the rape charges. He writes ... (Read more in Double X.)

     

  • Green Day's Guitar Heroine


    Rock dreams really do come true. Green Day played a show at Madison Square Garden on Monday. Lead singer Billie Joe Armstrong went looking for an audience member to join the band on guitar—and settled on a girl named Stephanie. Who shredded it ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • Prefer Drop Dead Diva to The Ugly Truth?


    June, Drop Dead Diva ties together two things we’ve been kicking around the blog the last few days: Is T.V. a better place for women than film?... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Sex and the Hopefully-More-Multiracial City


    Scene from Sex and the City © New Line Cinema, 2008.I was a major, unabashed fan of Sex and the City. (The show, that is—the movie was a grating, be-crinolined, poopy joke nightmare.) The things that bothered other people—the sex and status obsession, the what-planet-are-you-on depiction of a freelance writer's earning potential—never really bothered me. Its lily-white vision of New York, however, did ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • The Feminist Roots of Polyamory


    A guest post from Newsweek writer Jessica Bennett:

    I've never been in a relationship with two people at the same time, but I've spent the last two months talking about it constantly. Not because I'm obsessed with the idea—though, um, increasingly I am—but because I was writing a piece for Newsweek about one particular multi-partner family ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • David Brooks' Life Will Have No Meaning If You Fail to Breed


    Yesterday’s David Brooks column was written in response to the rarely asked question: What would happen if a freak solar event sterilized everyone in the Western Hemisphere? Without progeny, explains everyone's favorite National Greatness Conservative, we of the West would plunge into a “cataclysmic spiritual crisis,” deem our lives to be “without meaning and purpose,” and forgo any grand ambitions we might once have nurtured ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Tracy Quan's Anti-Withdrawal Argument Gives Women Zero Agency


    Tracy Quan, who is normally so sex-positive and has written extensively about her life as a call girl, has an article in the Daily Beast warning women against using withdrawal as a birth control method, even though new research has shown it to be almost as effective as condoms ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Jane Roe Just Told Me Not to Have an Abortion


    A post from Double X writer Meredith Simons:

    Barack Obama isn't the only person in Washington whose schedule has been all discombobulated by healthcare reform. Patrick Mahoney, director of the Christian Defense Coalition, planned on staging a "pray-in" at House Speaker Nancy Pelosi's office on Wednesday, but he's rethinking that now. Apparently the efficacy of a prayer is determined by its proximity to an event; Mahoney said "it wouldn't make any sense to be there all day praying if the vote isn't going to be this week." (He also admitted that there is a "chance that there may be some arrests" at a speaker's-office pray-in, and he didn't seem to want to put his group through that more than once.)

    But even though the events most likely to get their participants arrested have been postponed, the delay hasn't stopped activists from making their presence felt ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • The Blood-Soaked Kiss of a Good Swedish Lady Vamp


    Nina, I’m glad you brought up Grady Hendrix’s complaint that vampires aren’t doing enough blood sucking these days, because I have a bone to pick, too ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Sensitive Vampires Are Worse for Girls Than the Bloodsucking Kind


    Or so argues Grady Hendrix in Slate today. Hendrix hates emo-boy vampires, with their all-swoon, no-suck brand of human relations. Latoya Peterson argued here in Double X that Twilight and True Blood are bad for women because they're all about pigeonholing female characters into a virgin/slut binary ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • One More Way TV Will Save The World


    What is television good for? Curbing population growth, of course! Ghulam Nabi Azad, India’s Health and Family Welfare Minister, wants to bring electricity to the most rural parts of his country, in hopes that it will slow down the baby making... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Cell-Phone-Free Driving Starts at Home


    Emily and Willa, I completely agree with you that it’s time to get serious about cell phone use while driving—and I think there’s an interesting generational angle to consider as a crusade, I hope, gets under way ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Joyce Maynard Learns to Respect Privacy


    In last Sunday’s New York Times Modern Love column, author Joyce Maynard wrote about trespassing into the e-mail account of her 22-year-old daughter, Audrey. The daughter had temporarily relocated to the Dominican Republic when her communications home were abruptly and, to Maynard, ominously silenced. From reading the correspondence, Maynard learned that her daughter was embroiled in a personal dilemma—one that she apparently needed to resolve without involving her mother. After justifying the invasion of her daughter's privacy ("I dreamed my daughter was running ... her face a mask of grief"), Maynard goes on to tell Modern Love readers the details of her daughter's very emotional crisis, including results of her HIV tests.

    Maynard has, apparently, always had difficulty with boundaries. In 1972, when she was 18, the writer published a confessional essay in the Times about her generational perspective (sample: “Marijuana and the class of '71 moved through high school together”) that brought her national attention. She was later criticized about her 1999 memoir that excruciatingly detailed her teenage affair with then 53-year-old novelist J.D. Salinger. Maynard also auctioned off her love letters from the reclusive author.

    Even had Maynard not been notoriously ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • The Sotomayor Confirmation and the Gates Arrest


    Sotomayor confirmation hearing.The Senate Judiciary Committee voted in support of Judge Sonia Sotomayor this morning almost entirely along partisan lines—13 to 7, with Sen. Lindsey Graham of South Carolina the only Republican in favor. Sotomayor would be the first Hispanic Supreme Court justice. She made it through her hearings without the “meltdown” that Graham said would be needed to stop her confirmation, and also without giving Republicans any additional ammunition to oppose her. Yet today’s "no" voters included John Cornyn of Texas, who chairs the National Republican Senatorial Committee and so presumably thinks about the long-term national health of his party, and comes from a state that is 36 percent Hispanic, and Jon Kyl of Arizona, which is almost 30 percent Hispanic. The GOP stance leaves the party without an answer to this headline in Politico: “Democrats have huge day with Hispanics.”

    Why don’t the Republicans seem to care? Three reasons ... (Read the rest of this post, or the entire conversation on the Sotomayor hearings in Double X.)
  • Obama Gets Cranky About Alpha Kappa Alpha


    Alpha Kappa Alpha.It’s not a good week for Alpha Kappa Alpha. For starters, the group’s national president, Barbara McKinzie, may be forced out following allegations of using "the organization’s money to commission a $900,000 ‘living legacy wax figure’ of herself." Then in the New York Times Magazine profile of Obama adviser Valerie Jarrett, there was an anecdote about the president dissing AKA on the campaign trail. ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • Please Meet My Pillow, We've Been Together for Three Years


    There was a hugely fascinating article in this weekend's New York Times about a Japanese social phenomenon that needs to be read to be believed: A growing community of men are happily in love with 2-D animated characters. It’s like Lars and The Real Girl, but instead of being in love with anatomically correct dolls, these men are in love with pillows, decorated with the image of ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • Hate-Watching the Ugly Truth


    Katherine Heigl's newest romantic comedy, The Ugly Truth, is clearly an insult to women—nay, humans—with brains. So why did it earn a whopping $27 million at the box office this weekend? ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • Madonna Morphs into Iggy Pop


    The U.K.'s Daily Mail has a photo of Madonna that really must be seen to be believed. It's hard to know what to feel about Madge's muscle-y arms, in all their ropy glory. Scared? Sad? Personally inadequate? Slightly ashamed for pointing and staring at a fellow woman's unconventional body? All of the above, I guess. ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • Should Everybody Revisit Their Opinions on Pronouns?


    My grammar-sensitive family is in a tizzy over the “On Language” column from this weekend’s New York Times Magazine on the absence of a gender-neutral singular pronoun, a source of copy editing agony that has most recently surfaced on Twitter. In truth, the 140-character limit of the Twitterverse ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • Pelosi: Who Cares About Being Liked?


    I've never felt particular kinship for Nancy Pelosi. She has the shellacked visage of a long-time politician, and she has said enough tone-deaf things over the years to make me wince over the San Francisco liberal stereotype. But I like Pelosi better for her laughing statement to Politico that she doesn't actually care about being liked. ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • Would a Man Read YA Novels Like Lizzie Skurnick Does?


    Book.A post from Double X writer Margaret Wheeler Johnson:

    On Monday Double X published an excerpt from Lizzie Skurnick's new book Shelf Discovery: The Teen Classics We Never Stopped Reading, and I've since found myself paging back through my own copy of her ode to the young adult novel. In the office earlier today, Noreen and I were discussing what the book suggests about why women read. We thought others might want to chime in here ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • 16andpregnant.com: Cheesy, Not Dangerous


    A post from Double X writer Meredith Simons:

    Torie, you wondered whether MTV's show 16 and Pregnant will encourage teenage moms-to-be to consider adoption. At least one pro-life group hopes so: Lifeline Adoption oversees several pro-adoption websites, including the fortuitously-named 16andpregnant.com. Fans of the show who type in that URL won't get a site about the show. They'll get one aimed at girls who are precisely that: 16 and pregnant. At first glance it's a relatively generic, "We know you're scared, here are your options," sort of site, but it quickly becomes it clear that the site designers really only have one option in mind ... (Read the rest of this post, or the whole conversation, in Double X.)

  • What's Playing in Your Toddler's Ear?


    A post from Double X writer KJ Dell'Antonia:

    This year marks the 10th Anniversary of Putumayo Playground, the series of albums from the famed world music compilers created especially for kids. Fans credit it with being part of a revolution in kids' music which, along with artists like Dan Zanes and Laurie Berkner, turned what had been a wasteland of painful ditties into music kids and parents could enjoy together. Indeed, there's some catchy stuff out there, but you won't hear it playing in my car. What's wrong with Bruce Springsteen? If ABBA isn't kids music, what is? Is there anyone out there whose kid doesn't rock out to Flo Rida's "Jump?" ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Abortion's Role in the Health Care Debate


    Abortion didn't get much air time during the Sotomayor hearings, but it's become a flashpoint in the fight over Obama's health care legislation. Conservatives are saying that the various bills Congress is considering would increase access to abortion and subsidize the procedure with government funding. Meanwhile, a separate bill with support from both the pro-choice and pro-life sides designed to prevent unwanted pregnancy, with more money for contraception, could get caught in the crossfire ... (Read more in Double X.)

     

  • What I'm Learning from Skip Gates' Arrest


    That's a really upsetting litany of stories, Marjorie, about the cops accosting you and your relatives. The confluence of Skip Gates' arrest and the Obama presidency are making white people, at least some of us, take in these stories differently. We've heard them before, but now maybe we're absorbing them. Obama's election has both raised expectations of a post-racial America and given us a lens through which to see clearly how we still fall short. (Read the rest of this post, or the whole conversation, in Double X.)

     

  • Fun Factoids on Animal Sex


    Last night was the annual Planned Parenthood-sponsored “Summer Sex & Spirits” night at the Museum of Sex in New York, which I somehow have failed to visit until now. There was plenty of the expected—some porno flicks, some stylish anal plugs, even a hands-on display of rubber sex dolls with rubbery vaginal openings. But the real gem is the exhibit on the sex lives of animals. Here are a few highlights to share at your weekend BBQs. And Miriam, please chime in with any other fun animal sex factoids for this summer Friday ... (Read the rest of this post, and Miriam Goldstein's response, in Double X.)

     

  • Reeducating Jersey Sexters


    Via Reason’s Katherine Mangu-Ward we learn that New Jersey legislators, in “recognizing that teenagers who e-mail nude or sexually suggestive photos of themselves to friends aren't really child pornographers,” are proposing an alternative to prosecution. If the bill passes, charged sexters will merely be forced to attend a “course focusing on the consequences of such acts.” (Read more in Double X.)

     

  • A Pregnant Pause


    16 and Pregnant has been appointment television for me since I reviewed it for Double X's “Xxtra Small” and was thrilled to learn it’s been picked up for a second season. But like Jess, I find myself wondering whether the show will keep any teens from becoming moms. I suppose the National Campaign To Reduce Teen and Unwanted Pregnancy, which helped produce the series (get used to these sorts of nonprofit/TV partnerships), would measure success by whether more teens get intimately familiar with contraception and, for the love of god, use it correctly. The show’s teen stars are utterly thick-headed about family planning. One couple claims conception happened after they used a condom that had been through the wash; another baby came about because of that oldest excuse—the young dad just doesn’t like condoms ... (Read the rest of this post, and the whole conversation, in Double X.)

     

  • In Surrogacy, A Deal Isn't Always a Deal


    Thanks to Kerry for linking to her compelling personal story of the ovum marketplace. As for the question of market forces bearing on gestational surrogacy sticker price, I have two words to illustrate the right circumstance for the right seller: Debby Rowe. $4 million payoffs not withstanding, however, I do sympathize with Kerry’s and Sarah’s observations on the hazy protection surrogacy contracts offer to potentially exploited owners of host wombs.

    I remember well the first major legal case exploring rights of the surrogate involved a contract gone awry (in the opposite way of the urban legendary wealthy gay man of Nina’s classic six, were he to renege on the apartment after the baby is born). In that famous 1986 case, the surrogate, Mary Beth Whitehead, made a deal with William Stern to donate her egg and rent her womb to create a child with Stern, by artificial insemination, to be raised by Stern and his wife ... (Read the rest of this post, or this conversation, in Double X.)
  • Why Don't Surrogates Charge More?


    An odd, not-quite-paradoxical consensus is forming in our discussion over surrogacy. There is the assumption that the sticker price of $20,000 is surprisingly low, along with the assumption that surrogacy is so astronomically expensive that it’s only available to rich ladies with billionaire husbands and baby nurses. Both might well be true, but I’m more convinced by the former than the latter. Is surrogacy really out of the reach of your average middle-class dual-income couple that can, at any rate, afford to raise a kid for 18 years? Traditional pregnancies are by no means cost-free, so the cost of hiring a surrogate over becoming pregnant is lower than it first appears.

    The real question is why, in the age of the active, mercury-avoiding, one-glass-of-Merlot-will-destroy-your-baby-forever pregnancy, wealthy women are not bidding up the price for equally vigilant super-surrogates ... (Read the rest of this post, or the whole conversation, in Double X.)
  • Does "16 and Pregnant" Discourage Viewers from Becoming Teen Moms?


    I've aged out of almost all of MTV's programming—watching barely legal 20-somethings binge drink grain alcohol on various incarnations of the Real World is no longer my idea of entertainment. But I've caught a few episodes of the MTV series 16 and Pregnant, and althought I'm not the target audience, I have found the show to be pretty riveting stuff ... (Read the rest of this post, or the whole conversation, in Double X.)
  • Living While Black: Skip Gates Is Just The Latest Victim


    Thanks, Samantha, for pointing out a tendency by some white people to show, as you say, a “reflexive defense mechanism” whenever another white person, usually one in a position of power, is accused of showing racism. Coming from me, a black person, similiar sentiments are often dismissed as biased. But aren't the white people defending Officer Crowley and criticizing Skip Gates also showing bias?

    The difference in perception is predicated on a simple fact: Most white people have never experienced, and could never imagine, such a thing happening to them or their loved ones. But if you’re black, you’ve probably experienced an unpleasant, potentially dangerous, encounter with white police, or know some other black person who has. In my case there have been several such encounters ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Surrogate Motherhood: It's Not Just a Job, It's ...


    In response to Meredith's request to the mothers among us to tote up the number of "billable hours" in a pregnancy: This sum seems inherently incalculable, not only because it would differ wildly and unforeseeably from person to person and pregnancy to pregnancy, but because the normal model of pay for work just doesn't apply to bearing a child for someone else in exchange for money ... (Read the rest of this post, or the whole conversation, in Double X.)

  • Remembering Two Brave, Murdered Women


    Although she now has been buried, I wanted to comment about the death of Chechyn rights activist Natalia Estemirova. The stories of her life are singularly stunning ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • You Want My Body for 3 Bucks an Hour?


    A post from Double X writer Meredith Simons:

    Jessica, Kerry, and Sarah, your posts have me curious about the price of parenthood in surrogate situations, for both “intended parents” and surrogates. I crunched some numbers using the $20,000 payment that you mentioned, Sarah, and was shocked to realize that a surrogate making that much for a full-term pregnancy would earn less than half the federal minimum wage... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Not the Time to Play Devil's Advocate


    Just as upsetting to me as the Henry Louis Gates Jr. arrest, Emily, is the way that so many people have been responding, including in our own comments section ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Can This Friendship Be Saved?


    Longterm friendships—like any other relationships that are important to men and women—sometimes hit bumps in the road. But when do you decide to bail out? ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Surrogates Need More Than Compassion or Money to Be Successful


    A post from Double X writer Sarah Elizabeth Richards:

    Kerry, you’re right that surrogates need not be motivated by compassion alone. That’s because being a surrogate is a tough job. Never mind the social stigma they face explaining to their families and neighbors why they’re carrying someone else’s kids.

    Surrogates often have to deal with multiple births, Caesarian sections and mandatory bed rest. One Arizona surrogate even carried quintuplets for one couple ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Forget Michelle Obama—Barbie Is the New Black Fashion Icon


    Italian Vogue is celebrating Barbie's 50th anniversary—not to mention the first anniversary of its historic all-black issue (isn't that the most gorgeous photo of Naomi Campbell you've ever seen?)—with a very cool little supplement called "The Barbie Issue," full of fashion shoots starring black Barbies. Jezebel has an excerpt; may I recommend it as a mid-afternoon pick-me-up?

    As one commenter, dandelionbrowne, pointed out, one of the most striking things about the spread is the wide range of skintones, facial structures, and hair types on display. It sounds like the dolls are ... (Read more in DoubleX.)
  • Skip Gates Comes Up With His Own Silver Lining


    There's much to rue in the story of how Henry Louis Gates Jr. (editor-in-chief of our sister site, The Root) was arrested at his house last week. Was it supposedly disorderly conduct when Gates asked to see a Cambridge cop's badge and ID? Or when he said the cop was making a mistake based on racial profiling? The charge was dropped this afternoon, lucky for the cop ... (Read the rest of this post, or the whole conversation, in Double X.)

     

  • Will Chris Brown's Apology Stick?


    Chris Brown has a thing or two to teach Mark Sanford and John Ensign about how to say you're sorry. In his taped apology to Rihanna, for punching her in February, the singer sounds forthright and sincere. He's straightforward and direct. He invokes his mother, more than once. He says he's getting help and he promises not to do it again. All the boxes checked, including remorse.

    Should we believe him? For me this raises all kinds of questions about ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • Assisted Suicide Is Not About Romance


    A post from Double X writer Amy Bloom:

    In reading the conversation about the double assisted suicide of Sir Edward and Lady Joan Downes, I'm baffled by the idea that it was either selfish or super-romantic. Old people dying quietly is nicer than old people being crushed by the pain of terminal cancer or old people having their consciousness obliterated by morphine. But romantic? (Read more in Double X.)

  • Tina Brown's Clinton Chronicles


    Jess, Emily and Dayo, I saw Tina Brown's column on Hillary through a slightly different lens. Brown is writing The Clinton Chronicles, a book about Hillary and Bill, reportedly due out in 2010. The subject makes sense after Brown's terrific, dishy bio of Lady Di. The Clintons, after all, are our messy royalty. (The book deal was announced in January 2008, back when it must have seemed like Hillary would still be crowned our next Commander in Chief.)

    Hillary Clinton.Given this, Brown probably has some inside dope on what the Clintons are really thinking. She could be channeling Bill's thoughts about his wife. (Maybe The Big Dog is tired of being muzzled.) She could also be trying to raise Hillary's profile in advance of the book. Or, maybe Brown is just trying to do Hill a favor, by casting a little deserved limelight her way. (Read more in Double X.)

     

    Photograph of Hillary Clinton by Nicolas Asfouri/AFP/Getty Images.

  • From Samoas to Sotomayor: Girl Scouts at the Confirmation Hearing


    A post from Double X writer Meredith Simons:

    When a pack of smartly-uniformed firefighters strode out of Sonia Sotomayor's confirmation hearing Thursday, they were greeted by a throng of reporters—and six girls in green t-shirts, their point-and-shoots at the ready. The members of Greater King David Baptist Church's Girl Scout troop had just listened to two of the firefighters testify, and now they crowded together, photographing the firemen as they walked by. This was the best day of their trip. (Read more in Double X.)

  • Tina Wants Hillary and Barack to Rumble


    Jess, here's a theory: Tina Brown told Hillary to take off her burqa in hopes of starting a rumble. Once the Sec of State has derobed, she and Obama can start the fight Washington watchers expected them to have when she took the job ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • Hillary vs. Tina: The Brawl Continues


    Earlier this week, Tina Brown referred to Hillary Clinton as Obama's submissive "foreign policy wife" in a Daily Beast column. In that same space, she urged Hills to "take off her burqa." Though Brown scored some points in her critique of Clinton's invisibility (where was she this week in Russia?), those critiques were somewhat buried in deliberately provocative and arguably racist asides about how Hillary is Obama's "Saudi" spouse ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • No More Mr. Nice GOP


    A guest post from Double X intern Meredith Simons:

    If Sen. Jeff Sessions' 20 minutes with Sonia Sotomayor this afternoon is any indication, Republicans feel a new urgency in this second (and final) round of questioning. Before he began, Sessions' aides distributed 70-page packets of highlighted, tabbed documents regarding Sotomayor's tenure with the Puerto Rico Education and Legal Defense Fund. When his turn came, Sessions dispensed with the usual niceties about how well the nominee is holding up and jumped right in, accusing Sotomayor of promoting the idea that judges' "backgrounds, sympathies, and prejudices" should and do affect judicial decisions ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Shared Suicide is Selfish


    While I agree with Nina that the gesture of dying along with his terminally ill wife was insanely romantic, in my book, Sir Edward Downes was also insane ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Assisted Suicide Is Not Just a Medical Issue


    What’s amazing to me about this double assisted suicide story is that it’s never come up before ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • The Best Female Wrestler You've Never Seen


    After The Wrestler, Nacho Libre, Rocky, When We Were Kings, and scores of other films about hand to hand combat, you would be forgiven for thinking there’s nothing that could go down in a ring you haven’t seen before. You would be wrong ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • When Men Suffer Job Losses, Women Suffer Abuse


    A post from Double X writer Vanessa Gezari:

    Emily, I think Reihan Salam is onto something in his recent piece on the end of male power, in which he notes that the recession’s disproportionate impact on men resonates in the world of politics, where women are gaining ground (at least in places like Iceland) in a backlash against male financial mismanagement. Salam is right that the recession provides one more lens through which to observe global power’s shift from men to women; he’s also right that the backlash against men can spark a sometimes-violent secondary backlash against women in places where they gain economic and political power ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Let Me Tell You a Thing or Two


    A post from Double X writer Meredith Simons:

    Of all the stylistically tone-deaf things Sen. Lindsey Graham said to Sonia Sotomayor Tuesday, the worst was his declaration that he was going to tell a 55-year-old judge with 18 years of appellate experience how the world works ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • In Search of Good Arguments Against Edward Downes' Right to Die


    Nina, I too was touched by the quiet, unassuming dignity of Edward Downes’ choice to die clutching the hand of his sick wife. It seems to matter very much to critics whether Downes himself were ill or not, which is interesting given the universal prognosis for 85-year-old men (and, indeed, all of us.) Is there really a significant ethical difference between his choice and that of his cancer-stricken wife? ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Til Joint Assisted Suicide Do Us Part


    Photograph of Sir Edward Downes.A sobering story from Europe: It's been announced that the British conductor Sir Edward Downes died last week, alongside his wife, at an assisted-suicide facility in Switzerland. Lady Downes was in the final stages of terminal cancer; Sir Edward was ailing ("almost blind and increasingly deaf," according to his son), but his condition wasn't fatal. He just wanted to die with his wife ... Read more in Double X.)

  • What It Took to Make Me Jealous of My Daughter


    Emily, if you’re still collecting anecdotes from parents who are envious of their children, and children who outshine their folks, I can add to your list ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • A Bachelor Goes Limp


    Last night, on the latest episode of The Bachelorette, the inevitable happened: One of the contestants—lovelorn, earnest, ready-to-drop-on-one-knee Ed—was given an opportunity to have sex with a girl he is “crazy about” in a hotel room, tricked out with roses, body oil, and ... a crew, cameras, and millions watching at home. He failed to get hard. How has this not happened before? ... (Read more in Double X.)

     

  • Is the IHOP Girl a Spoiled Brat?


    KJ, your fury over the New York Times Magazine essay by the high school girl slumming it as an IHOP waitress seems to have hit a nerve: Our commenters tend to agree with you that she’s a spoiled brat, the emblem of an entitled generation who won’t get their hands dirty. I read the essay entirely differently ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • The New Sotomayor: Wise But Not Better Than Anyone Else


    I prefer Sotomayor’s effort to put her wise Latina point in context to the talking points the Obama administration previously came up with ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Do Radical Professors Produce Radical Students?


    A simple but telling little study from the University of Brussels challenges the idea that college kids are gobs of clay passively waiting to be molded by their professors. In general, students of social science are more likely to graduate college as self-defined leftists, while law and economics graduates tilt the other way. To find out why, sociologists gave various cohorts of university students surveys when they entered their schools and when they graduated. They found that while ... (Read more in DoubleX.)
  • Judging by Dragnet: "Just the Facts and the Law, Ma'am."


    I’m feeling deflated this morning. For many decades, the legal academy (and to some degree, even the rest of the universe) has been debating the degree to which law is a scientific abstraction—a computer you crank up that spits out the right answer—and the degree to which it is malleable, subjective: a piece of clay that judges necessarily shape. At times, legal realism, as the second position is called, has gone too far. But mostly it’s a hugely welcome breath of fresh air, a way of articulating what everyone intuitively understands. Judges are not robots! They are not, in fact, umpires who just call balls and strikes, to give in to John Roberts’ now all-pervasive sports metaphor, because sometimes they have to determine the size and all the other parameters of the strike zone.

    But now we have Sonia Sotomayor going along with and indeed promoting a view of the law as all about Input automatically dictating Output. As she keeps putting it, in this or some other variation, “I’m a judge who believes the facts drive the law. By drive the law, I mean, determines how the law will apply in that individual case.” Sometimes, it is true that ... (Read more in Double X.)
  • Let Them Eat Pancakes


    A post from Double X writer KJ Dell'Antonia:

    Susannah Jacob meant to write a humorous account of her failures as an IHOP waitress. Instead, she offered yet more fodder for our “entitled generation” conversation, and revealed herself, intentionally or not, as being unable—or unwilling—to succeed at one of today’s most elusive goals: an actual, if unglamorous, job.

    Jacobs lives in an affluent Dallas suburb. She’s heading to college in the fall. She doesn’t, by her own admission, “need the paycheck.” And it’s clear that she thinks it’s funny that someone like her ... ( Normal 0 false false false EN-US X-NONE X-NONE MicrosoftInternetExplorer4 /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-qformat:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi;} Read the rest of this post, or the entire conversation about Generation Y at work, in Double X.)
  • Did Obama Ogle the Booty or Not?


    When I saw this photo yesterday of Obama checking out this fine, shimmering booty, I felt—dare I admit this—a weird kind of pride. Obama has always portrayed himself as master of his own impulses. He exercises every day, doesn’t eat the cupcakes, dines every night with his kids, makes regular date nights with his wife. Nothing wrong with this self-control. It’s impressive, in fact. Except that it makes one long for some glimmer of the old male appetite ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • The Havoc Wreaking He-cession


    In Foreign Policy, Reihan Salam is predicting that male dominance will be a casualty of the economic downturn (or the he-cession, as he calls it, since more men than women are being laid off). He writes:

    The great shift of power from males to females is likely to be dramatically accelerated by the economic crisis, as more people realize that the aggressive, risk-seeking behavior that has enabled men to entrench their power—the cult of macho—has now proven destructive and unsustainable in a globalized world.

    What will follow is not a femitopia, but rather ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • It's Not So Fun to Outdo Your Parent


    Emily, you wrote yesterday about the tricky feeling of watching your son outperform you, and finding it discomfiting. But kids can be just as uncomfortable in the surpassing role as the parents are about being bested. My all-girls basketball team used to gather every Sunday afternoon to scrimmage our parents. It was mostly dads who took the bait ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Rethinking Paris Jackson


    So between Marjorie and an e-mail from a friend, I'm going to recant a bit about Paris Jackson speaking at her father's funeral. I can’t take back that on a gut level I found the entire spectacle off-putting, but I ought to have reminded myself that being in the limelight can be tough, especially when you're having real feelings. What's genuine seems staged, what's staged is supposed to be genuine, it's hard to parse the difference, and the difference hardly matters ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Why is Haute Couture "Toning Down"?


    A post from Double X writer Erika Kawalek:

    The Paris haute couture shows have come to a close. The reviews are in and there’s discussion going on about how luxury is being “toned down” for these “hard times,” how "fancy" is being "snubbed."

    In the case of the officially bankrupt house of Christian Lacroix this makes sense. He was forced to make do with bolts and scraps of fabric he already had lying around his studio. He drastically cut back on ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Why Margaret Mead Kept Her Maiden Name


    Why do women keep their maiden names? Some of us take the answer to that question for granted: Those names are the ones we were born with. Others go ahead and swap when they get married. I don't have a big political wind up for this one: It's a deeply personal choice, there are a lot of factors to consider, and if my maiden name was something I thought dreadful or dull, I might have jettisoned it. After all, ... (Read more in Double X.)

  • Double X is Hiring a Software Engineer


    If you're a great web developer who loves Slate and Double X, we want to talk to you. We're looking to hire a senior-level web software engineer for Double X ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Why Can't Doctors Admit it When They Don't Have an Answer?


    How sad that Summer Stiers, the young woman suffering from an as-yet uncategorized illness who was profiled so heart-breakingly by Robin Marantz Henig in the New York Times Magazine, has died. At least she ended up at the National Institutes of Health where the doctors tried—unsuccessfully—to puzzle out the reason for her many medical maladies.

    One of my daughter's favorite shows is Mystery Diagnosis, which presents the story of someone with strange symptoms who goes for years without being able to get a diagnosis ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Mother of the Uighur Movement


    If ever you think you have too much to do or you’re fretting about your “work/life” balance, peek into the life of Rebiya Kadeer, the Uighur activist who did or didn’t set off the latest protests against the Han Chinese. She started off as a laundress and somehow became the Uighur community’s most successful business person by importing steel from Kazakhstan ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Don't Psychoanalyze MJ's Memorial Service


    Whew Willa, you offer some tricky psychoanalysis here. None of us can say what the Jacksons were thinking on that stage with Paris, or what they were trying to project to the YouTube audience. What we can safely say is that despite being a dysfunctional family, they are clearly a family in grief. I think it’s unfair to try to interpret their intentions. Would it have been better, or more believable, if they had not embraced Paris and just stood off to the side and whispered to her to suck it up? Is it really that implausible that with Michael now gone they would want to surround his children in a protective cocoon? ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Bruno Will Eat Your Children


    From my many years of writing about evangelicals, I often get e-mails from conservative Christian sites. One I got yesterday labeled: “WARNING: Protect Your Children” caught my eye. Bands of child molesters? Gay teachers? More abortions? No, worse. Sacha Baron Cohen. The e-mail is a classic in the genre of scold while titillate ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • "Government Officials Would Not Even Confirm That the Dead Man Had Existed"


    Last night I listened to a member of the U.S. Coast Guard narrate the experience of intercepting a boat full of Haitians trying to reach American soil. The worst part, he said, was that the immigrants thought they’d found “the welcome wagon.” The Coast Guard was enthusiastically invited onto the boat before they burned it and repatriated its passengers ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Why Did Summer Stiers Die?


    A guest post from Robin Marantz Henig, a contributor for the New York Times Magazine (and Sam's mom!):

    The death two weeks ago of Summer Stiers, a young woman I met last year and wrote about at length for the New York Times Magazine, made me think about how hard it was for her to get anyone to take her perplexing illness seriously. Whatever ailed Summer seemed to cause a wide range of symptoms, which is why nobody could quite figure out what was wrong with her. She bled from her intestines; her kidneys failed; she had chronic pain in her legs and back; she developed severe toxemia while pregnant and lost her baby; her bones were damaged; she had frequent mental blackouts attributed to seizures; she had lost one eye, and the retina in the other was damaged; she was profoundly fatigued; her hair was completely gray, even though she was only 31 ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Emily Interviews Ruth Bader Ginsburg


    Our own Emily has a fantastic and revealing Q & A with Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg up on the New York Times website today. Their conversation ranges from Roe v. Wade to summer camp in the Adirondacks to Savana Redding to losing her shoe under the bench ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Daddy's Little Girl Gives MJ the Human Touch


    Jessica, I saw nothing cruel or exploitative about allowing Paris Jackson to speak about her dad and I’m inclined to believe the Jackson family didn’t force her to do so. According to several news reports, Janet Jackson was slated to speak but let Paris speak instead because she wanted to say something about her father. I watched the whole thing and found the memorial to be tasteful and well-executed, not the bizarre spectacle you describe ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • The Exhausted Aptocrat


    A guest post from Double X intern Margaret Johnson:

    Sam, your post on Gen Y's educational entitlement sounded eerily like a schpeel that plays through my mind every morning. As you know, I am a grad student getting a master's degree in your field. Government and private loans, check; no more earning potential with my degree than without it, check; denial—not really. I went back to school last fall for a specific purpose: to make up for what I, one of those Gen Y strivers, didn't get out of my supposedly idyllic undergraduate education ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Woody Allen Summers in Cincinnati


    Obama 2012 watchers are all aflutter over yesterday’s news that the president’s approval rating in bellwether swing state Ohio has dipped to just 49%, down from 62% in May ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Can Someone Other Than A Robot Please Give Paris Jackson A Hug?


    Sorry Dana, but I’m with Jess on Paris. The contrasts contained in the moment of her speech, to be really eloquent about it, freaked me the eff out. Here’s a young girl, a daughter, having a genuine, raw moment of grief and she’s surrounded by a bunch of… actors. Her authenticity was matched in pitch only by the performativeness in the people surrounding her ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Paris Jackson's Speech the Creepiest Moment? Not Even


    Jessica, though there were plenty of things to be creeped out by during the Michael Jackson memorial service yesterday, for me Paris Jackson’s short and tearful tribute to her father didn’t number among them. In fact (along with Brooke Shields’ speech and Jermaine Jackson’s vocally unsure but heartbreaking performance of “Smile”), Paris' appearance struck me as one of the day’s few uncreepy moments ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Children Speaking at Public Funerals: Cathartic or Cruel?


    So. That happened. The bizarre spectacle of Michael Jackson's funeral was everywhere yesterday, and the most talked-about moment was when Michael's daughter, Paris Jackson, went up on stage and told the world, "Ever since I was born, Daddy has been the best father you could ever imagine. And I just wanted to say I love him so much." Her Aunt Janet softly urged her forward and said, "speak up." Though I don't doubt Paris's emotion was genuine, the thing felt creepily staged ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • The White House: "Family-Friendly" for a Few?


    I read Liza’s summary of Mimi Swarz’s take on mature women in the most powerful workplace in the world with some interest. After all, I’d previously written on the preponderance of single women in the Obama White House, lamenting the fact that a bold-face name like Melody Barnes put off marriage for years, in order to run policy in an administration poised to overhaul health care, energy action, and the economy ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Sarah Palin Is Right About One Thing


    Am I losing it, or does Sarah Palin have a point? I mean, when she says that if she'd remained in office, she wouldn't have accomplished anything because state business would have been tied up in the many ethical charges against her? That strikes me as a hard kernel truth in the middle of the sea of bullshit Palin is wading in (today, literally, by giving TV interviews while out catching fish). Palin is right that she became a different kind of politician when McCain has picked her as vice president. Maybe that's because ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Should Michelle Break Up With J. Crew?


    Has J. Crew pushed the boundaries of their symbiotic Obama relationship a little too far? Politico posted an item disclosing a press release the retailer sent to reporters yesterday, advertising the fact that Sasha and Malia Obama have been spotted out and about in J. Crew wares. Specifically, if you must know ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • A Good Argument Against Raising Perfect Kids


    Perfect kids are more likely to murder you in your sleep. At least, that's according to horror flicks that fall into the "evil kid genre," inaugurated by 1956's The Bad Seed. Other warning signs: ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Gen-Yers Still Entitled ... Not Just in Workplace, But in Education Choices


    I agree with you, Jess, that the poor job and internship prospects for today’s college students are more about the underperforming economy than an over-supply of participation trophies, or any other Gen-Y generalizations on which people like to pin such trends. But I disagree that Gen-Yers’ (that is to say, “our”) entitlement is purely economy-driven. Following your theory, that sense of privilege should diminish with the foundering economy. That would mean that our peers, many of whom are getting laid off or fear they soon will be, should right about now be tossing aside dreams of jobs that let us save the world and stay intellectually stimulated all day every day—all while wearing jeans and working from home when we feel like it!—and settling for whatever jobs we can get. Instead, we’re going to grad school.

    The idea that young people choose to weather tough economic times in the safety of university libraries is nothing new. What’s different this time around is the opportunity costs that we Gen-Yers are all but ignoring when we choose the post-bac path. Education is expensive—much more so that it was for our parents, having gone up at more than twice the rate of inflation over the past two decades. The federal income-based repayment plan that kicked in this month underscores how bad the student loan trap has gotten. People are rejoicing over ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • "We're All Intersex"


    We learned today that Rita Wilson is prepping an HBO series based on Middlesex, Jeffrey Eugenides' Pulitzer-winner about a girl named Callie who grows up to become a man named Cal. In a bit of fortuitous timing, Salon has posted an interview with professor Gerald N. Callahan, author of Between XX and XY, a new book about intersex people.

    Intersex people are born neither male nor female; the descriptor is "an umbrella term that includes people with a tremendous number of genetic conditions, from those born with an extra X chromosome to those with overdeveloped adrenal glands."

    There are lots of interesting nuggets here—for example, Callahan's description of biological sex as a spectrum, not a binary system. (Hence the piece's title, "We're all intersex.") That's a concept that many of us are comfortable with vis-a-vis gender identity, but applying that framework ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Quantico, Guantanamo


    I just caught up with the essay in the New York Times Magazine by writer Anne Bernays about her dismay at her grandson, David, becoming a Marine. His decision was an incomprehensible turn of events for Bernays. After all, she writes, she is a liberal Jew who raised her family in Cambridge, Mass. Her children went to the "best schools." They had "no money worries." In other words, people like this simply do not produce Marines. At David's graduation, she has a conflicted sense of pride in his accomplishments. But nowhere does she question ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Drunk Mom Breastfeeds


    Police arrested a North Dakota woman yesterday for breast-feeding while drunk, and now she is facing charges of child neglect. This case brings to the surface all of our weird notions about breast-feeding. The cops were called in for domestic disturbance and said the whole scene suggested ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Getting Rid of Your "Gay Boyfriend"


    Amelie Gillette, the brilliantly crabby woman behind the Onion A.V. Club column The Hater, has pointed out one of the scourges of the Bravo network: the repeated use of the completely insulting term, "gay boyfriend." Gillette has started a Hater podcast, and on her first cast she calls the Real Housewives franchise out on their mostly demeaning ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Kay Hymowitz Fears for the Future of Marriage


    In the Wall Street Journal, my onetime sparring partner Kay Hymowitz argues that the discussion over the meltdown of white, middle-class marriage comes at a time when white, middle class marriages are particularly likely to last; the divorce rate for college-educated women is remarkably low. And despite the fact that her piece includes a sarcastic shoutout to Double X, I think she is mostly right. For all the talk of desperately bored empty nesters, marital satisfaction generally suffers when kids come along and rises when kids leave. The median age of first divorce for women is 29, not 59; it seems that the arrival of children is more likely to challenge a marriage than their sudden disappearance.

    Oddly, Hymowitz also insists that marriage is “suffering a full-scale crisis of consumer confidence” among this same subgroup, and reminds us that “in any crisis, people tend to panic.” In defense of this claim she cites the Sandra Tsing Loh's piece in the Atlantic, our discussion, John Edwards, and Mark Sanford. (The Gosselins, surely more powerful cultural actors than any of the former, go unmentioned.) So which is it? Is the institution of marriage safe and stable or ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • The Recession Has Really Screwed Recent College Grads


    That's a good market-driven thesis, Jess, for why Gen Y-ers have a reputation for acting entitled in the workplace: They've been demanding because they could be. Here's another way in which your mid-20s peers are luckier than their younger siblings and friends who are graduating from college right now. According to a study by economist Lisa Kahn of the Yale School of Management, graduating during a downturn has long-term bad consequences. "They include lower earnings, a slower climb up the occupational ladder and a widening gap between ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Generation Y Is No More Entitled Than The Baby Boomers Before Us


    The New York Times had an article in its style section yesterday about college students' bleak prospects for employment this summer. The content is entirely unsurprising: We're in a recession where jobs are drying up for everyone. What interested me in this article was the 180 that experts are making on their previous assumptions about Generation Y: ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Only Caitlin Flanagan Could Make Mark Sanford Look Good


    A guest post from Linda Hirshman:

    With a cover story by working mother scourge Caitlin Flanagan, next week’s Time Magazine takes the occasion of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford’s staggeringly banal adultery to tell America that “Marriage Matters.”

    Why does marriage matter? Not of course because of the harm to the deer-in-the-headlights brigade—Silda Wall Spitzer, Jenny Sanford, etc. That would put Flanagan on the side of the adult females.

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    Marriage matters, because single parent families are bad for children, the only people who count ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Hello, Young Lovers


    Jessica, my husband and I have been married for 15 years. Last weekend, we drove from Maryland to New Jersey and during the many hours of crawling in traffic we wrote a rap song together about the Delaware Toll Plaza. We stay up too late talking to each other. We hold hands at the movies. Since we're in our fifties,sure we've talked about who's going to get to pull each other's plug—but eventually being able to do this honor is not why we're together. So do not despair that marriage is an enterprise devoted to raising children, fighting over litterbox scooping duties, and holding the horror of fidelity over each other's heads ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • The Rise of the Empty Nesters


    Speaking of being bummed out, I felt oddly blue after reading Mimi Swartz’s excellent piece in The Daily Beast about empty-nesters in the Obama administration. Swartz, who also writes for Double X about being an empty nester herself, talks about (and to) White House senior adviser Valerie Jarrett, and also offers up WH Social Secretary Desiree Rogers and First Lady Chief of Staff Susan Sher, among others, as collective proof that professional life isn't over for women—in some ways it's just beginning—when their kids leave for college. This may well be true, and it's striking to see so many redoubtable women in positions of power. I admit to a keen fascination with Jarrett and Rogers, who live in the same apartment building on the Georgetown canalfront and who I like to think of as popping into each other's apartments, like the cast of Seinfeld, or Mary Tyler Moore and Rhoda, borrowing clothes and gossiping ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Questionable Dataset of the Day


    Yes, I understand that Internet surveys are hopeless, and yes, I understand that 448,000 lonely hearts do not a random sample make, but still I ask: What is the deal with this OK Cupid map of debauchery by state?... (Read more at DoubleX.com.) Read More... -->
  • Caitlin Flanagan's Defense of Marriage Bums Me Out


    It's been a rough couple of weeks for marriage. First, Sandra Tsing Loh came out swinging against the institution in the Atlantic (and we discussed it ad nauseam), and simultaneously Mark Sanford and John Ensign and the Gosselins paraded their broken relationships in front of the nation. In Time, Caitlin Flanagan takes up for long-lasting unions in an essay called "Why Marriage Matters." Flanagan's defense of marriage can be boiled down to: The reasons to get married are to raise children and not die alone ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Take a Coffee Break with Jimmy McNulty


    Carte Noire, a British coffee brand, has a new online video campaign directed smack at cubicle-dwelling, former English majors (i.e., me). Every week, a hottie actor of the Anglo persuasion reads a love scene from a new or classic novel. Here's Dominic West—Jimmy McNulty of The Wire—reading the scene from Pride and Prejudice in which Mr. Darcy declares his love for Elizabeth Bennet ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • A New Day for New Delhi's Gays


    Good news to wake up to: New Delhi's highest court has decriminalized homosexuality—for New Delhians, at least.

    The law overturns Section 377 of India's penal code, a colonial-era statute that prohibits "carnal intercourse against the order of nature with any man, woman or animal" ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Heath Ledger Profile Shows How Fame Can Destroy the Psyche


    Sara, you said that childhood stardom was such a destructive force for Michael Jackson, and you were right. But the current issue of Vanity Fair has a cover story on Heath Ledger that shows for a sensitive adult, stardom ain't all its cracked up to be, either. This isn't a new idea: That's why "the price of fame" is such a cliched phrase. But Peter Biskind's story of the Ledger demise is particularly heart-stomping, since Heath was so young, so talented, and being a movie star really did ruin every aspect of his life ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • The Car Seat Taboo


    Palin is back among us not only as a God-loving runner (is that a strange shot with the flag, or what?) but also as a hard-charging mama bear. In Todd Purdham's Vanity Fair profile, which Dayo and Jess dissected earlier this week, are new tidbits about Troopergate, Palin's corrupt-seeming axing of Walt Monegan, who was Alaska's head of the Department of Public Safety. My favorite: Twelve days before he was fired, Monegan sent Palin an e-mail telling her that a state legislator had reported that she'd been seen driving with her baby Trig not in an "approved car seat" ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Can This Marriage Be Saved?


    Emily, I agree with you that Jenny Sanford should stop talking to the media. When a husband describes his affair with another woman not as a regrettable indiscretion but as “a love story” and refers to said woman as his “soul mate” and to his wife as someone he’s trying to fall back in love with, does it not beg the question: Why is Jenny Sanford trying to save her marriage?... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Sarah Palin: A Woman of Many Rocks and Few Skills


    I too got a huge kick out of the Sarah Palin interview in Runner’s World, Jess. I’ll give her a break on the cheeseball factor, since I’ve found that it really is hard to talk about running without sounding totally boring and preachy. But you’re right, she was preaching more than the gospel of endurance. In addition to the “faith in God” line you called out, there was also her weird aside about calling on your rock ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Sarah Palin on God and her "Throbbing" Thighs


    Anyone who still thinks Sarah Palin isn't trying to use her enviable physique to her political advantage should read this Runner's World profile in which Palin says, "I knew my thighs were going to just throb."... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Jenny and Silda, Coming to a TV Near You


    The moment when the political wife stands (or doesn’t stand) on stage while her husband soberly confesses that he could not, try as he might, keep it in his pants, has proven time and time again to be a moment of high drama. This fall, it will also be the basis for a television show. Jezebel points to the trailer for CBS’s forthcoming The Good Wife, a drama starring Julianna Margulies (aka ER’s Nurse Hathaway) as a mother whose politician husband (played by Chris Noth aka Mr. Big) has up and pulled a Spitzer, but landed in jail for it ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Honey, Can I Please See My Mistress


    Hanna, perhaps the most enduring lesson of the Mark Sanford unraveling is that when your marriage falls apart, don't call in the AP reporters. I generally side with Ruth Marcus and have been pro-Jenny Sanford. But the danger in claiming the moral high ground is that the air starts to get thin, and the lack of oxygen makes you say stupid things ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Is Jenny Sanford a Model or a Disaster?


    The Op-Ed Divas have a showdown today about Jenny Sanford ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Waking Up in Honduras


    I don’t know that it gives me any special insight into the situation, but I was in Copan, Honduras, the night one head of state was replaced with another. The military had apparently cut the power and water supply, and walking to breakfast, a friend and I saw some armed soldiers jogging in the distance. But waking up in a Central American country and finding that the lights don’t work, the shower won’t turn on, and some armed men are lining up outside isn’t really cause for surprise. I thought nothing of it ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • The Sarah Palin Saga: Why Doesn't She Get it?


    Like Jessica, I devoured Todd Purdum's blistering report in the current issue of Vanity Fair about Sarah Palin that draws on sniping from former John McCain aides, shrugging statements of disownment from acquaintances in Wasilla, and sorrowful head-shaking from the Republican intelligentsia. The wide-ranging “profile” of the woman who almost stood second in line to the presidency pre-empts the forthcoming book that netted the Alaskan governor seven figures. And, having undergone the saga of the 2008 presidential campaign—particularly the post-Labor Day sprint that made up Palin’s first months in the public spotlight—it’s astonishing to think that there could POSSIBLY be more to the story.

    And yet, writes Purdum ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

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