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Thursday, July 02, 2009 - Posts

  • Only Caitlin Flanagan Could Make Mark Sanford Look Good


    A guest post from Linda Hirshman:

    With a cover story by working mother scourge Caitlin Flanagan, next week’s Time Magazine takes the occasion of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford’s staggeringly banal adultery to tell America that “Marriage Matters.”

    Why does marriage matter? Not of course because of the harm to the deer-in-the-headlights brigade—Silda Wall Spitzer, Jenny Sanford, etc. That would put Flanagan on the side of the adult females.

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    Marriage matters, because single parent families are bad for children, the only people who count ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Hello, Young Lovers


    Jessica, my husband and I have been married for 15 years. Last weekend, we drove from Maryland to New Jersey and during the many hours of crawling in traffic we wrote a rap song together about the Delaware Toll Plaza. We stay up too late talking to each other. We hold hands at the movies. Since we're in our fifties,sure we've talked about who's going to get to pull each other's plug—but eventually being able to do this honor is not why we're together. So do not despair that marriage is an enterprise devoted to raising children, fighting over litterbox scooping duties, and holding the horror of fidelity over each other's heads ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • The Rise of the Empty Nesters


    Speaking of being bummed out, I felt oddly blue after reading Mimi Swartz’s excellent piece in The Daily Beast about empty-nesters in the Obama administration. Swartz, who also writes for Double X about being an empty nester herself, talks about (and to) White House senior adviser Valerie Jarrett, and also offers up WH Social Secretary Desiree Rogers and First Lady Chief of Staff Susan Sher, among others, as collective proof that professional life isn't over for women—in some ways it's just beginning—when their kids leave for college. This may well be true, and it's striking to see so many redoubtable women in positions of power. I admit to a keen fascination with Jarrett and Rogers, who live in the same apartment building on the Georgetown canalfront and who I like to think of as popping into each other's apartments, like the cast of Seinfeld, or Mary Tyler Moore and Rhoda, borrowing clothes and gossiping ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Questionable Dataset of the Day


    Yes, I understand that Internet surveys are hopeless, and yes, I understand that 448,000 lonely hearts do not a random sample make, but still I ask: What is the deal with this OK Cupid map of debauchery by state?... (Read more at DoubleX.com.) Read More... -->
  • Caitlin Flanagan's Defense of Marriage Bums Me Out


    It's been a rough couple of weeks for marriage. First, Sandra Tsing Loh came out swinging against the institution in the Atlantic (and we discussed it ad nauseam), and simultaneously Mark Sanford and John Ensign and the Gosselins paraded their broken relationships in front of the nation. In Time, Caitlin Flanagan takes up for long-lasting unions in an essay called "Why Marriage Matters." Flanagan's defense of marriage can be boiled down to: The reasons to get married are to raise children and not die alone ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Take a Coffee Break with Jimmy McNulty


    Carte Noire, a British coffee brand, has a new online video campaign directed smack at cubicle-dwelling, former English majors (i.e., me). Every week, a hottie actor of the Anglo persuasion reads a love scene from a new or classic novel. Here's Dominic West—Jimmy McNulty of The Wire—reading the scene from Pride and Prejudice in which Mr. Darcy declares his love for Elizabeth Bennet ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • A New Day for New Delhi's Gays


    Good news to wake up to: New Delhi's highest court has decriminalized homosexuality—for New Delhians, at least.

    The law overturns Section 377 of India's penal code, a colonial-era statute that prohibits "carnal intercourse against the order of nature with any man, woman or animal" ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

  • Heath Ledger Profile Shows How Fame Can Destroy the Psyche


    Sara, you said that childhood stardom was such a destructive force for Michael Jackson, and you were right. But the current issue of Vanity Fair has a cover story on Heath Ledger that shows for a sensitive adult, stardom ain't all its cracked up to be, either. This isn't a new idea: That's why "the price of fame" is such a cliched phrase. But Peter Biskind's story of the Ledger demise is particularly heart-stomping, since Heath was so young, so talented, and being a movie star really did ruin every aspect of his life ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • The Car Seat Taboo


    Palin is back among us not only as a God-loving runner (is that a strange shot with the flag, or what?) but also as a hard-charging mama bear. In Todd Purdham's Vanity Fair profile, which Dayo and Jess dissected earlier this week, are new tidbits about Troopergate, Palin's corrupt-seeming axing of Walt Monegan, who was Alaska's head of the Department of Public Safety. My favorite: Twelve days before he was fired, Monegan sent Palin an e-mail telling her that a state legislator had reported that she'd been seen driving with her baby Trig not in an "approved car seat" ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
  • Can This Marriage Be Saved?


    Emily, I agree with you that Jenny Sanford should stop talking to the media. When a husband describes his affair with another woman not as a regrettable indiscretion but as “a love story” and refers to said woman as his “soul mate” and to his wife as someone he’s trying to fall back in love with, does it not beg the question: Why is Jenny Sanford trying to save her marriage?... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
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